Perspective shift

Today was tough for me as a Mom. Like really tough. But this evening as the kids were swimming in the lake & then in the bath tub & then now, as the kids are sleeping & I just finished investing a whole hour+ into bedtime snuggles, books, rubbing backs, singing songs, praying over each one, playing rock, paper, scissors & hugging them so close & speaking life over them & telling them how much I am thankful for them & that I love them… Whew! And now…I’m taking some time to think about what I was thinking about when being a Mom felt so “tough” today. Truth is, I let my mind focus on & magnify the “hard” parenting things we do… but their was SO MUCH GOOD that happened today too… but most of the day I was missing it….

So much depends upon what we choose to focus on. It’s amazing how if I meditate on the whininess or the bad attitude or how much housework I need to do that I can begin to dread the rest of the day with my kids… poor kids! Who wants a Mommy like that?!

This evening I determined to fight the good fight of faith and speak out loud what I am thankful for and to consciously focus on the good. And you know what? I felt grace come. Things begin to feel much more manageable. I began to notice the smiles, the blue sky, the beautiful sunset, the lake that’s available for swimming (my kids ended up having a blast swimming in the lake tonight) and I fully enjoyed watching them have fun. Energy came back where I was able to truly love on my kids before they fell asleep tonight. I may have messed up a chunk of my day due to focusing on “what a hard day I’m having” but I’m so thankful by Gods grace I was able to turn the ship around by evening time.

Truth is I have SO MUCH to be thankful for!!! We all do! A loving, kind, gracious, merciful God who is good and trustworthy. I could spend everyday going on and on about how grateful I am for God, I could revel in His goodness each and everyday and be so filled up. I just need to decide. Whatever we choose to think about will become magnified.

Their was a study on the brain done about complaining. And what it showed is that when you complain their are pathways made. And so the more you complain, the easier it is to keep complaining because your brain likes to take the path of least resistance! Let’s be those who begin to cut-off those pathways by posting up a huge DO NOT ENTER sign and do some of the hard work (and so worth it!!!) of forming new pathways in our brain- pathways of thankfulness!

Will you consider joining me as I do my best to focus on the good & the beautiful and speak the language of thanksgiving?! I know I won’t always get it right but how wonderful when I do! I think that’s how we are meant to live. A life of focusing on the good, the praiseworthy, the lovely, and the beautiful & may thankfulness, gratitude & appreciation be our foundation for the way we talk. It’s not that we don’t see the bad or the ugly, we simply don’t choose to meditate on it.

All my love,


Let’s live like this!

“Summing it all up, friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious- the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not to curse.” Philippians 4:8 My favorite scripture! I am committing myself onward to live this way.

Isn’t this the best way to live? We live in an endless amount of blessings how could we not overflow every day with gratitude and thankfulness?! There are so many things in our lives that are SO GOOD and those are things that should captivate our attention always. It’s so important to train ourselves to think on these things, to meditate on these things, to look for these things – it truly is the happiest way to live! As a dear friend of mine always says, “It’s just the most fun way to live!”

I love so much Proverbs 15:30 in the Passion translation that says “Eyes that focus on what is beautiful brings joy to the heart, and hearing a good report refreshes and strengthens the inner being.”

Are you looking for the beautiful in those around you? And in the things that you do have and that you have been blessed with? Are you meditating and reminding yourself of alllll the beautiful and life-giving promises that are yours in Jesus?

I am on a journey in this way of living, would you consider journeying this way of living with me? Can you imagine the strength and the energy we will feel as we develop this beautiful habit in our lives? Can you imagine the blessing it will be in our marriages and in the way we raise our children? Can you imagine how it will bring out the best in those who we do life with? This is how our Father God thinks, meditates, speaks and believes for us. Let’s live out who we were created to be – in the image of our Heavenly Daddy. Ephesians 5:1-2 in the Message bible says “Watch what God does, and then you do it, like children who learn proper behavior from their parents. Mostly what God does is love you. Keep company with him and learn a life of Love. Observe how Christ loved us. His love was not cautious but extravagant. He didn’t love in order to get something from us but to give everything of himself to us. Love like that.” Verses 3 & 4 goes on to say how we are to talk and what kind of talk is not fitting for us. At the end of verse 4 it says “Thanksgiving is our dialect.” How beautiful is that?! May our dialect be one of continual thanksgiving and gratitude. We have so much to be grateful for beautiful friends.

If you have a moment, would you begin a running list that you can add to of all the things you’re grateful for about your life? About your spouse if you’re married and about each of your children if you have them? About your friends, about your home, your work, your mode of transportation, etc. I have started this and I love referring to it to remind myself and adding to it when a new thing pops into my mind!

Thankful for you sweet and beautiful friends. Cheers to an overcoming and beautiful day!

Every blessing,