Today was tough for me as a Mom. Like really tough. But this evening as the kids were swimming in the lake & then in the bath tub & then now, as the kids are sleeping & I just finished investing a whole hour+ into bedtime snuggles, books, rubbing backs, singing songs, praying over each one, playing rock, paper, scissors & hugging them so close & speaking life over them & telling them how much I am thankful for them & that I love them… Whew! And now…I’m taking some time to think about what I was thinking about when being a Mom felt so “tough” today. Truth is, I let my mind focus on & magnify the “hard” parenting things we do… but their was SO MUCH GOOD that happened today too… but most of the day I was missing it….
So much depends upon what we choose to focus on. It’s amazing how if I meditate on the whininess or the bad attitude or how much housework I need to do that I can begin to dread the rest of the day with my kids… poor kids! Who wants a Mommy like that?!
This evening I determined to fight the good fight of faith and speak out loud what I am thankful for and to consciously focus on the good. And you know what? I felt grace come. Things begin to feel much more manageable. I began to notice the smiles, the blue sky, the beautiful sunset, the lake that’s available for swimming (my kids ended up having a blast swimming in the lake tonight) and I fully enjoyed watching them have fun. Energy came back where I was able to truly love on my kids before they fell asleep tonight. I may have messed up a chunk of my day due to focusing on “what a hard day I’m having” but I’m so thankful by Gods grace I was able to turn the ship around by evening time.
Truth is I have SO MUCH to be thankful for!!! We all do! A loving, kind, gracious, merciful God who is good and trustworthy. I could spend everyday going on and on about how grateful I am for God, I could revel in His goodness each and everyday and be so filled up. I just need to decide. Whatever we choose to think about will become magnified.
Their was a study on the brain done about complaining. And what it showed is that when you complain their are pathways made. And so the more you complain, the easier it is to keep complaining because your brain likes to take the path of least resistance! Let’s be those who begin to cut-off those pathways by posting up a huge DO NOT ENTER sign and do some of the hard work (and so worth it!!!) of forming new pathways in our brain- pathways of thankfulness!
Will you consider joining me as I do my best to focus on the good & the beautiful and speak the language of thanksgiving?! I know I won’t always get it right but how wonderful when I do! I think that’s how we are meant to live. A life of focusing on the good, the praiseworthy, the lovely, and the beautiful & may thankfulness, gratitude & appreciation be our foundation for the way we talk. It’s not that we don’t see the bad or the ugly, we simply don’t choose to meditate on it.
All my love,