Tips to creating a joy-filled day with little ones in our homes..

We must remember we are the example for our kids. We get to show them it is possible to find joy in the little things each day. If we want our kids to experience joy everyday,we get to go first! If we are struggling with joy in our homes, then it begins with us. We as the parent are the lid. If we are not experiencing joy, then it may be difficult for our kids as well. The good news is, we can change and go on a journey of discovering great joy in parenting. It may be uncomfortable if you’re not used to living this way, but trust me, it’s worth it! Lets fight for our joy so that we and our whole family can benefit!

If you are struggling with depression and/or anxiety, do not hesitate to reach out to a good counselor. I’m certain everyone at different times in their lives could use a good counselor to help them walk thru certain things. I know I have and it was absolutely worth every penny! It’s incredible how depression, anxiety, rage, anger, feelings of being overwhelmed can dramatically be healed as you tend to your soul with a compassionate counselor who can help you process thru these emotions. Most often it is not our children or our spouse that is the root of our triggered feelings, it’s unprocessed feelings from long ago yet they can get the brunt of the negative feelings that are triggered if left unattended too. Don’t let this be you. You are worth it and so is your family!

A few tips on inviting joy into your everyday life:

1 Decide that everyday is a good day, and train your children to think this way too! When my girls were very little, I would ask them when they would first wake up “What day is it today girls?” and they would respond by saying “It’s a good day, Mommy!”

2 Train yourself and your children to look for the good and the beautiful in everything and in everyone.  Everyday we will have opportunities to focus on the negative AND the positive, the bad AND the good. Decide that what you are going to think about and talk about is going to be the positive, the beautiful and the good.

3 Choose to be thankful for all the little things throughout your day.  It’s the green light that you made, the parking spot you found, the cup of coffee in the morning, the running water, the tiniest patch of blue sky through the clouds, etc. There is ALWAYS little things to be grateful for. Make it a game! When doing a task that needs to get done that would normally not be very fun such laundry, dishes, meals, cleaning or raking leaves or whatever – use that time to say out loud all the things you can think of that you’re grateful for. Or listen to an encouraging podcast or fun music. Make it enjoyable.  I always tell my kids “Why would I ever choose to complain about something I get to do everyday for the rest of my life? That would be no fun!” I just decided long ago that I was going to enjoy these tasks!

4 Find out what fills up your soul and incorporate those things into your life.  Do you need time with friends, alone time to process, a fun adventure, a date-night, a healthy creative outlet? What fills you up? As parents we give so much and it’s so important that we also fill ourselves back up so that we can be in a heathy state to be able to give. Are you in a position where you could budget in a little help here and there? I like to wake up early before my kids are awake to enjoy some coffee & reading & then get in a workout and shower before they are up.

5 Prep the day before for an overcoming, beautiful tomorrow. Put into practice little routines that help bring beauty and order to your life and that help contribute to feelings of joy. For example, clean up the kitchen the night before & set the table for breakfast so in the morning you can begin fresh. Prep your fridge with healthy snacks. Prep the coffee the night before. Throw in a load of laundry before getting into bed so it doesn’t build up for a whole weekend project.

6 Remember, your kids are your team. Train them and require of them age-appropriate chores.  With some instruction and encouragement they can take a lot off of your plate and you can empower them with life-skills they will need to win in life. Empowering your children with a great work ethic is so good for them (and you!). It builds a confidence in them that they will need in life.

I asked my 4, 5, & 8 year old how they experience joy everyday and here were a few of their sweet answers:

1 Have a good attitude!

2 Sing while doing your chores

3 Make a choice to be happy

4 Enjoy sitting on your sidewalk

5 Make a picture in your mind of what you want an outcome to look like and keep working until the picture in your mind is real life

6 Enjoy your flowers

7 Relax in your backyard with a good book

8 Sharing makes you happy!

9 Enjoy your view

10 Listen to the birds singing outside

11 Go for a walk and enjoy the view and fresh air

Home…

Hello there gorgeous one!

I happen to be away at the Breathe Retreat this weekend, an incredible life-giving & refreshing weekend for mom’s – its amazing!!

While here, I am spending some time thinking about the word HOME and what my dream home is like.  Have you taken some time to think about your dream-home? I’m not talking about your physical house, although that may be part of it. Perhaps some of my thoughts could spark some inspiration for you. I encourage you to write down your thoughts on how you can imagine your home being. xoxo

Home…

A home that’s heavenly; an atmosphere that instills within them that feeling of “I am worth living this life beautifully”

Beauty & order

Presence & worship

Royal & loved

Important & productive

 

“Home is a place where all that is good is treasured, stored & protected.” -Sally Clarkson

It’s a safe place. A place where everything good rules and reigns. The atmosphere is always LOVE. Where we are enabled and live from a place of victory. The feelings within each one who lives there fluctuates between every good feeling – loved, loving, joy, peace, inspired, inspiring, beautiful, royal, righteous, compassionate, energized, heard, important, respected, amazed, passionate, full, healthy, whole, lacking no good thing.

The actions of the ones who live here are loving, respectful, kind, generous, thoughtful, serving one another, preferring one another’s needs above our own, finding joy in other’s joy, having our needs richly met by our Heavenly Father.

Thanksgiving is our dialect. Life-giving words is what we speak over one another.

 

Oh my soul, bless God.

From head to toe, I’ll bless his holy name!

Oh my soul, bless God, don’t forget a single blessing!

He forgives your sins – every one.

He heals your diseases – every one.

He redeems you from hell – saves your life!

He crowns you with love & mercy – a paradise crown.

He wraps you in goodness – beauty eternal.

He renews your youth – your always young in his presence.

God makes everything come out right; He puts victims back on their feet.

As high as heaven is over the earth, so strong is his love for us. -Psalm 103:1-6

 

I am loved to the deepest core of my being- instilled into my core is my Heavenly Father’s perfect, unconditional love, his peace, that surpasses all understanding AND His overflowing life-giving JOY. He wraps me in His loving kindness and tender mercies. He satisfies my needs & longings till I am fully satisfied and brought to a place of contentment and joy. He leaves me lacking nothing, I am totally cared for. I am loved. His love drives out any fears or anxieties I might have had. I know that he constantly is thinking of my needs and preparing good things for me every day! He is a good, good daddy! Everyday he holds me to reassure me of his love. I know that I can do all things beautifully and with strength and Grace because He is my helper and His joy is my strength! Thank you God!

 

Lady wisdom builds a lovely home;

Sir fool comes along and tears it down brick by brick. -Proverbs 14:1

 

Builds: to develop or give form to according to a plan or process.

Lovely: full of love, loving, inspiring love or affection. Having beauty that appeals to the emotions as well as the eye. Enjoyable, delightful, of a great moral, a beautiful woman, winning, graceful, amiable.

 

Brick by brick: small things, small compromises.

 

I love preparing for a beautiful tomorrow; cleaning, organizing, planning, praying, etc. Prepping fresh fruit and meals for a healthy tomorrow. I like to start my day and not let my day start me…

My home…

Beautiful

Clean

Uncluttered

Organized

Simple and romantic

Systems

Inspiring

Tranquility

Peaceful

Warm

Cozy

Happy

Healthy

Full of energy

Inviting

Relational – a place where you can be heard and process

A place of worship, healing, hope, freedom & love

A place of laughter & joy

 

We are loved. I am a happy, loving and kind Mommy to Avey, Anna, Kirsten & Lily. I am the best wife for Grant. Our home is beautiful, full of our Heavenly Father’s presence, full of His love, joy, peace & grace. We are full of energy and strength. Everything is getting taken care of. The Holy Spirit is our helper. We are living the glorious life He has willed for us.

My daughters and I are full of beauty and grace and we walk in truth. We absolutely love & adore, admire & respect the man of our home, my handsome husband; their loving, kind & fun daddy. My children & husband are God’s greatest blessings to me! Grant and I are best friends & so in love with each-other. I am his best helper and we are a great team. We work with each-other and not against each-other. We look for the best- not the worst in each-other. I am Grant’s & my children’s #1 cheerleader. We always think and believe the very best about each-other. Mommy & Daddy can’t keep their hands off each-other!!

Jesus’s blessings on our lives is crazy ridiculously good! A scandal! Love, joy, freedom, grace, peace, forgiveness, freshness, a new start, generous, wisdom, favor!! Just to name a few!! He makes life beautiful!! He turns things around for our good, He is trustworthy, safe & soooo so good!! “He is not a rules-enforcer, He is a grace & love dispenser!!” (Author of quote unknown).

Home is being in God’s presence. A place where we are meant to live in Him & Him in us. 2 Corinthians 6:14 Message says… I’ll live in them, move into them; I’ll be their God and they’ll be my people. (The Passion Translations says it this way:) I will make my home in them and walk among them. I will be their God, and they will be my people.

What are your thoughts on HOME? Would sure love to hear in the comments below…

Love you sweet friends!

Angie